What is your Love
Personality?
by Alina Ruigrok
www.love-sessions.com
FIt is an obvious fact that we can
learn and know what true love is. What we are often not aware of though, is
that there are different love trends. Does it even matter if we understand
love trends? If we are in a happy relationship, then that means it is all
fine, right? Yes and No. Although, your love with your partner might run
smoothly for a while, it can take a turn we often never expect. This is why
knowing about love trends is helpful.
What may have turned you or your partner on at first, might not be a turn on
later. How is this possible if they seemed so crazy over certain things
before? The reason is quite simple and reasonable. When we first get involved
with people, the attraction and lust is so strong (not that it would not be
later), that the way one seduces the other is not truly focused on, but simply
instantly appreciated, since they are so drawn to one another.
As the relationship proceeds and the bond builds, you will start getting in
touch with your own style of loving and expecting your partner to match up to
it. At times, this will be just the case. Couples can share the same love
trend, but at other times, they can differ. If your trends do differ, do not
look at it as negative, but as a way to combine them and form a creative love
trend together. It should not be one way or the other. There is no such thing
as the wrong way to love, except for obsession, controlling and abuse, of
course-which is not love anyway, although some feel it is.
How do you even come about recognizing the love personality of yours or your
partners? It is not difficult, but does require quite a bit amount of
observation. Start by making notes of your romantic qualities and ideas of
what great romance, sex and seduction is to you. Do you like walks on the
beach and dining at cozy, romantic restaurants? Or do you like setting up your
sexual activities by setting up a scene and playing along with it, or just
going with the flow? By knowing what trend you follow, you will then be
introduced to your romantic identity and know what you need from your partner.
There are several types of love trends that you should know about. It will
help you come to a deeper understanding of what type of lover you are and your
partner as well. People, whose personalities follow the emotional trend, are
lovers who pay attention more to the meaning behind things, instead of the
thing itself. A man who does not really care for picnics on the beach may
still love the event due to the intention behind it. He sees the effort his
mate put into it and sees the love and caring meaning that his mate had when
the idea was thought of and planned. Emotional lovers are sensitive and love
sharing with their partners and are also very spiritual. They do not hold back
from expressing their true feelings.
A Creative trend follower on the other hand, may have some of the same traits
as an emotional lover, but focuses more on discovering new things and trying
them out, taking risks for a bigger thrill. They love to plan and be a part of
interesting activities with their lovers because they like going through
adventures and new territories together. These types of lovers are found to be
quite exciting because they seem to be more mysterious and full of surprises
and imagination.
Then you have the traditional trend follower, who likes to follow the rules of
what society considers the right way to handle a relationship. They believe in
having one partner, following the dating and romance guides to the point
(bringing a girl some flowers when picking her up at the door for a date, just
to mention one). They also believe in being organized, being financially
responsible and planning the events that will take place in their lives with
their partners.
Those are the main trends that most people fall into following. This does not
mean that a person who has a certain love trend cannot carry qualities from
other trends, however. It just means they in general carry that love
personality. There is no trend better than the other either. Each trend is
unique and interesting in it’s own way. When two people follow the same trend,
it is fabulous because they both know exactly what the other is fond of and
what to expect as well. There are hardly mixed signals. Having different
trends is also a wonderful thing. When a couple has their individual love
personality, it opens the door for each one to learn new ways to love
expressions and can create a great trend combination!
Considering and accepting our partner’s different trend of love is extremely
important to do. If you do not, it will seems like you are just determined to
have the romance in your relationship to go your way, by your trend. This will
definitely cause unhappiness and have a very high possibility for your mate to
back away from romance with you, because he or she will feel that there is
lack of attention towards their needs and trends concerning romancing. So
remember to be considerate and learn to adapt to their ways too.
It feels fabulous when our lover is being considerate of our trend, respecting
it, following it with us often. You cannot be the one always being considered
however. You will then become what is called a Constant Receiver. Constant
Receivers are always on the look out for themselves. They never look beyond
their trend and the needs that are involved with it. They always observe
whether or not they are getting what they need and want from their lovers, and
if they feel they could be getting more, they grab more. What about your
partner? What are his or her needs? Have you even considered what their trend
is about and how you can compromise and follow theirs sometimes? Never let
these questions go unnoticed. If you find yourself being a constant receiver,
it does not mean you are a bad person, but that you have been a little
careless. When you realize this, stop yourself and look deep down. You will
probably realize that you are aware of your over receiving, and have been so
flattered by it that you got carried away. Once you have sorted this out, you
can start returning the favor back to your partner.
Being a Constant Giver also has its down side. Yes, you would be always
pleasing your partner, but what about you? Is having your trend considered not
important? Of course it is! Do not be too furious with your mate if this
happens. Just remember what you just learned about Constant Receivers. Your
mate most likely did not ignore your trend needs on purpose, but just got
carried away with being pampered. After all, you did you create this situation
when you were over giving! So many people fall under this category of giving
too much. This is because most people believe it is more important to please
their lovers than having their own needs and wants fulfilled. Caring about
pleasing your partner is good, but disowning your own romantic identity and
needs, is not. Get back on track by getting your guilt in order first. Know
that you should not feel guilty for wanting or needing something from your
partner. You are entitled to having those needs fulfilled. You also should not
look at giving as the good thing, while receiving is the bad thing. They are
both good when equally exchanged. Start bringing your romantic trend and needs
to your mate’s attention. You can do this by bringing up a good movie that is
coming out and letting them know that you really want to see it. Re-teach them
that they should give too, instead of always receiving from you.
Just highlight the fact that there are different love trends and that they are
all unique and deserve to be followed and participated in. As a couple, you
will not only please each other, but learn more about the other as well! As
long as you do not forget this and understand the importance of an equal share
between giving and receiving, your combination of love personalities will live
in a content environment.
Alina Ruigrok is an independent relationship expert for
http://www.love-sessions.com
helping those in need of dating, love, relationship, marital, sexual and other
personal advice through e-sessions.
About the Author
Alina Ruigrok is an independent
relationship expert for
http://www.love-sessions.com helping those in need of dating, love,
relationship, marital, sexual and other personal advice through e-sessions..
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