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Surviving a Long
Distance Relationship
by Alina Ruigrok
Challenging and difficult, though they may
not be what we want to hear, are the words that best describe long distance
relationships. Keep in mind however, that the words are challenging and
difficult, not impossible. Many people choose to give a long distance
relationship a try, with the constant curiosity if it was the right decision
to make and if it even stands a chance. The truth is, a long distance
relationship has just as much a chance of succeeding as any other
relationship!
Long Distance Relationships share the same
facts as an average relationship. It involves two people who share an interest
in each other’s lives, care for one another and of course have a love for each
other that they hope will only continue to grow. On the other hand, a long
distance relationship does have its differences as well. It takes away your
ability to see each other on a frequent note, as well as the choice of being
intimate whenever you desire, not to mention that there would be major trust
required. Being unable to spend time together in a physical presence makes it
harder to hang on to, but does not spell out doom for your relationship.
The first step is to make an agreement of what your expectations are in the
relationship and how much of a commitment you are willing to give and receive.
If the two of you decide to be monogamous, then it is clear that neither of
you will be dating anyone else as long as your romantic relationship exists.
Being clear about what you both want is extremely important, especially in a
long distance relationship, in order to prevent future misunderstandings and
mistakes. Do not feel afraid to tell your partner what you really need and
want from him or her, you deserve the chance to speak from your heart and he
or she deserves to know the truth and judge whether they can give it to you.
Trust is a major necessity if you wish to have your relationship from a
distance. Without trust and honesty, the relationship is in for danger and
unsuccessfulness, just as it would be any other relationship. By accepting the
challenge of a long distance relationship, you also accepted the fact that you
will have to have the trust and faith that your partner will not be seeing
anyone else as promised. Being paranoid and accusing will only grow doubts,
insecurity and tension between you and none of those three will help the
relationship survive successfully.
Keeping each other informed of the friendships you have with other people and
the events that take place in your personal life is a great way to keep your
relationship alive and healthy; and continues to make your partner a part of
your life. It is essential that you receive the same information from your
partner as well, so you both feel the same security and satisfaction that you
both crave. Be creative with the way you keep in touch, such as calling,
e-mailing, faxing and sending cards. Pay attention to how many times a week
you are staying in touch as well. If you want your bond to stay strong and
loving, you have to hear from one another often, leaving as little room for
any of you to start getting paranoid about anything. Although you cannot be
romantic towards each other on a physical note, you can still perform romantic
acts that will keep the romance department happy. You can do this by sending
love letters and poems, having flowers and gifts delivered, or even sending a
video of yourself with a loving message. Reminding your partner of how much
you think about and love him or her will score high points, making them miss
you more with the constant urge to see you.
Planning reunions play a big part in keeping your relationship exciting, plus
serve you the satisfaction of being able to see and touch each other
occasionally. It gives you the opportunity to catch up on each other’s life in
person and to be able to share physical and intimate activities together,
which will fulfill both of your needs and desires. Not re-uniting every once
in a while will only damage the relationship you have, so if one of you are
not willing to visit the other occasionally, then you may need to question the
interest and care your partner has for you and should probably end the
relationship and move on. If you and your partner truly want this to work out,
then you will both continue to be eager to see each other as often as you can
and every time to have the chance to.
Setting a limit of how long you will be apart is a wise thing to do if you do
not want to end up waiting forever. There will be a day when you and your
partner will have to start planning a serious future, which can only happen
when you are living in the same area or perhaps even living together,
whichever makes you most comfortable. If none of you are willing to agree on a
place to settle and start having a relationship where you see each other on a
regular basis, then you can pretty much forget about accomplishing anything
out of your long distance relationship. If your partner truly loves you and
wants to be with you, then they would not want to wait forever to be with you.
With the right amount of effort and interest on both parts, a long distance
relationship can survive the obstacles it will frequently be challenged with.
As long as you both refresh your memories of why you chose to do this in the
first place, trust each other, inform one another of your personal lives, keep
in touch, and visit, your relationship can turn out to be one of the most
successful and happy relationships that ever existed. You both will be secure,
happy and satisfied until the day comes when you will re-unite for good and
build your wonderful future together.
Alina Ruigrok may be contacted at
http://www.love-sessions.com
info@love-sessions.com.
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My Favorite Quotes
about Friendship
The greatest reward for serving others is the satisfaction found in
your own heart.
A small drop of courtesy will save a lot
of friction.
Kind actions begin with kind thoughts.
If you share a friend's burden, both of
you will walk a little straighter.
Friendship- two clocks keeping time.
Those of us who used to be called grumpy,
now just have an attitude.
Be patient with the faults of others and
remember they're doing the same with yours.
When it comes to body language, some
people have better vocabularies than others.
When a friend makes a mistake -- don't rub
it in -- rub it out.
The right train of thought can take you to
a better station in life.
If smiles were gold, how rich would you
be?
Friendship is the golden thread that ties
all hearts together
5 Ways to Develop
Friendships That Really Count
by Cindy Shaw
Friend is such a powerful word that
holds so many different meanings: confidant, collaborator, instigator, and the
person who helps carry you through difficult experiences and celebrates and
enriches the good ones.
As said by Emily Dickinson, “My friends are my estate.”
How then do we develop friendships that nurture our spirit and enrich our
lives?
By following these 5 guidelines you can begin developing friendships that
will uplift and inspire you.
1) Be Open Minded
One of the keys to developing a close friendship with someone is to be
accepting of the other person by making an effort to understand where they are
coming from. Since we each have a different set of beliefs and values and live
life in our own unique way, we can always learn something of value from our
friends.
Being open minded requires that we drop our judgements in favor of
understanding. Although you may not agree with someone or their point of view,
you can always make an effort to understand them.
2) Be a Good Listener
This is a skill few people have developed well. One thing we all need
to remember is that we have two ears that were meant for listening. Too often
we are too busy talking or thinking up our response, that we don’t truly
listen to what someone else is really saying.
When we actively listen to someone else, we make that person feel important
and special – two ingredients to maintaining a healthy friendship.
3) Be Trustworthy
Trust is a key ingredient to any strong and healthy relationship. When we keep
confidences, are impeccable with our word and walk our talk, we send others
the message that we are reliable, dependable and ultimately trustworthy.
Speak with integrity and only say what you mean. Avoid gossip or talking
about others and always do what you say. Taking these actions will speak
loudly to others that you are a trustworthy and responsible friend.
4) Be Yourself
One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself and others is you – the
authentic YOU. There is only one of you in this world, complete with your own
gifts, talents and treasures. Your uniqueness is what makes you special and
what others will seek out.
When you are honest with yourself, you can be honest with others. By being
authentic, you will show your friends that you are not afraid to be who you
are and in part will give them permission to be fully who they are.
5) Set Limits
As with anything in life, it is important to set limits as to what you will
and will not accept in your life. This may mean ending a negative conversation
with a friend or saying ‘no.’ Ultimately, setting limits is an act of
self-respect.
When you set limits with friends, you are sending a loud message that you
will not tolerate things that are not aligned with your life or your spirit.
By openly respecting yourself, others will gain a deeper respect for you.
Cindy Shaw may be contacted at
http://www.SisterhoodConnection.com
cindy@sisterhoodconnection.com.
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