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about Friendship
The greatest reward for serving others is the satisfaction found in
your own heart.
A small drop of courtesy will save a lot
of friction.
Kind actions begin with kind thoughts.
If you share a friend's burden, both of
you will walk a little straighter.
Friendship- two clocks keeping time.
Those of us who used to be called grumpy,
now just have an attitude.
Be patient with the faults of others and
remember they're doing the same with yours.
When it comes to body language, some
people have better vocabularies than others.
When a friend makes a mistake -- don't rub
it in -- rub it out.
The right train of thought can take you to
a better station in life.
If smiles were gold, how rich would you
be?
Friendship is the golden thread that ties
all hearts together
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Sparkle in Your Relationship
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What is your Love
Personality?
by Alina Ruigrok
www.love-sessions.com
FIt is an obvious fact that we can
learn and know what true love is. What we are often not aware of though, is
that there are different love trends. Does it even matter if we understand
love trends? If we are in a happy relationship, then that means it is all
fine, right? Yes and No. Although, your love with your partner might run
smoothly for a while, it can take a turn we often never expect. This is why
knowing about love trends is helpful.
What may have turned you or your partner on at first, might not be a turn on
later. How is this possible if they seemed so crazy over certain things
before? The reason is quite simple and reasonable. When we first get involved
with people, the attraction and lust is so strong (not that it would not be
later), that the way one seduces the other is not truly focused on, but simply
instantly appreciated, since they are so drawn to one another.
As the relationship proceeds and the bond builds, you will start getting in
touch with your own style of loving and expecting your partner to match up to
it. At times, this will be just the case. Couples can share the same love
trend, but at other times, they can differ. If your trends do differ, do not
look at it as negative, but as a way to combine them and form a creative love
trend together. It should not be one way or the other. There is no such thing
as the wrong way to love, except for obsession, controlling and abuse, of
course-which is not love anyway, although some feel it is.
How do you even come about recognizing the love personality of yours or your
partners? It is not difficult, but does require quite a bit amount of
observation. Start by making notes of your romantic qualities and ideas of
what great romance, sex and seduction is to you. Do you like walks on the
beach and dining at cozy, romantic restaurants? Or do you like setting up your
sexual activities by setting up a scene and playing along with it, or just
going with the flow? By knowing what trend you follow, you will then be
introduced to your romantic identity and know what you need from your partner.
There are several types of love trends that you should know about. It will
help you come to a deeper understanding of what type of lover you are and your
partner as well. People, whose personalities follow the emotional trend, are
lovers who pay attention more to the meaning behind things, instead of the
thing itself. A man who does not really care for picnics on the beach may
still love the event due to the intention behind it. He sees the effort his
mate put into it and sees the love and caring meaning that his mate had when
the idea was thought of and planned. Emotional lovers are sensitive and love
sharing with their partners and are also very spiritual. They do not hold back
from expressing their true feelings.
A Creative trend follower on the other hand, may have some of the same traits
as an emotional lover, but focuses more on discovering new things and trying
them out, taking risks for a bigger thrill. They love to plan and be a part of
interesting activities with their lovers because they like going through
adventures and new territories together. These types of lovers are found to be
quite exciting because they seem to be more mysterious and full of surprises
and imagination.
Then you have the traditional trend follower, who likes to follow the rules of
what society considers the right way to handle a relationship. They believe in
having one partner, following the dating and romance guides to the point
(bringing a girl some flowers when picking her up at the door for a date, just
to mention one). They also believe in being organized, being financially
responsible and planning the events that will take place in their lives with
their partners.
Those are the main trends that most people fall into following. This does not
mean that a person who has a certain love trend cannot carry qualities from
other trends, however. It just means they in general carry that love
personality. There is no trend better than the other either. Each trend is
unique and interesting in it’s own way. When two people follow the same trend,
it is fabulous because they both know exactly what the other is fond of and
what to expect as well. There are hardly mixed signals. Having different
trends is also a wonderful thing. When a couple has their individual love
personality, it opens the door for each one to learn new ways to love
expressions and can create a great trend combination!
Considering and accepting our partner’s different trend of love is extremely
important to do. If you do not, it will seems like you are just determined to
have the romance in your relationship to go your way, by your trend. This will
definitely cause unhappiness and have a very high possibility for your mate to
back away from romance with you, because he or she will feel that there is
lack of attention towards their needs and trends concerning romancing. So
remember to be considerate and learn to adapt to their ways too.
It feels fabulous when our lover is being considerate of our trend, respecting
it, following it with us often. You cannot be the one always being considered
however. You will then become what is called a Constant Receiver. Constant
Receivers are always on the look out for themselves. They never look beyond
their trend and the needs that are involved with it. They always observe
whether or not they are getting what they need and want from their lovers, and
if they feel they could be getting more, they grab more. What about your
partner? What are his or her needs? Have you even considered what their trend
is about and how you can compromise and follow theirs sometimes? Never let
these questions go unnoticed. If you find yourself being a constant receiver,
it does not mean you are a bad person, but that you have been a little
careless. When you realize this, stop yourself and look deep down. You will
probably realize that you are aware of your over receiving, and have been so
flattered by it that you got carried away. Once you have sorted this out, you
can start returning the favor back to your partner.
Being a Constant Giver also has its down side. Yes, you would be always
pleasing your partner, but what about you? Is having your trend considered not
important? Of course it is! Do not be too furious with your mate if this
happens. Just remember what you just learned about Constant Receivers. Your
mate most likely did not ignore your trend needs on purpose, but just got
carried away with being pampered. After all, you did you create this situation
when you were over giving! So many people fall under this category of giving
too much. This is because most people believe it is more important to please
their lovers than having their own needs and wants fulfilled. Caring about
pleasing your partner is good, but disowning your own romantic identity and
needs, is not. Get back on track by getting your guilt in order first. Know
that you should not feel guilty for wanting or needing something from your
partner. You are entitled to having those needs fulfilled. You also should not
look at giving as the good thing, while receiving is the bad thing. They are
both good when equally exchanged. Start bringing your romantic trend and needs
to your mate’s attention. You can do this by bringing up a good movie that is
coming out and letting them know that you really want to see it. Re-teach them
that they should give too, instead of always receiving from you.
Just highlight the fact that there are different love trends and that they are
all unique and deserve to be followed and participated in. As a couple, you
will not only please each other, but learn more about the other as well! As
long as you do not forget this and understand the importance of an equal share
between giving and receiving, your combination of love personalities will live
in a content environment.
Alina Ruigrok is an independent relationship expert for
http://www.love-sessions.com
helping those in need of dating, love, relationship, marital, sexual and other
personal advice through e-sessions.
About the Author
Alina Ruigrok is an independent
relationship expert for
http://www.love-sessions.com helping those in need of dating, love,
relationship, marital, sexual and other personal advice through e-sessions.
Love Magic: How to Attract
Your Perfect Partner for Passion, Profession or Play by Keith Varnum
The Myths that Keep Us from Love
Are society's relationship myths causing you to give up on love or settle for
less than what you want?
Most of the people who taught us about love are people who don't let
themselves be loved. Hello? What's wrong with this picture? A little wacky,
yes? Yes!
In truth, is there any good reason to withhold love from yourself? The
accurate answer is "No!" Let's do a Reality Check on love.
Myth No.1 - You have to work at having a good
relationship.
Reality: A relationship that is good for you does not take work.
If you have so many problems and disharmonies in a partnership
that it feels like work to stay involved, then the person is not
right for you. Differences of opinion, style and preference
should be a source of intrigue and attraction, not a quagmire of
argument and conflict.
Myth No.2 - Negotiation, compromise and sacrifice are
necessary
for two people to have a successful partnership.
Reality: Not every day! Frequent negotiation, compromise and
sacrifice are warning signs of a doomed relationship. If you
find yourself having to negotiate, compromise or sacrifice more
than once a week to keep your partnership going, that
relationship has too many natural disharmonies to be right for
you, or the other person. Fun, nurturing, lasting partnerships
are based on natural mutuality-an organic harmony of traits and
values that already exist before the two people meet, not after
they both give up their spirit to "make things work." If a
relationship is hard, troublesome and requires a lot of struggle
and effort, guess what? No amount of communication or counseling
is going to make that connection easy, fun or fruitful.
Myth No.3 - All the good ones are taken.
Reality: Every single person has a special, perfect someone
waiting for them. The togetherness we long for is assured. We
have pre-arranged with one, or more, personal soulmates to meet
this lifetime in order to help each other open to love. All you
need to do is remove the living room couch, refrigerator and
kitchen sink from blocking the front door to your house (heart)
so that your destined lover can get in!
Myth No.4 - You can borrow good qualities from your
"better half."
Reality: You can for a while. But you need to quickly become-rather than
borrow-those good qualities. Otherwise, you're dependent on the other person
for the better qualities. Enjoy intimacy as a mutual exchange of energy
between interdependent equals. Address your flaws, and become the type of
person you'd like to date. The Law of Attraction rules in seeking a partner.
Like vibration attracts like vibration. If you possess the qualities that you
want in a partner, the law of attraction will work for you.
Myth No.5 - If I can just change my partner's behavior,
things will be better.
Reality: Famous last words! YOU can't change other people. They
need to evolve on their own path at their own pace. Besides, you
are always dating yourself anyway! In truth, your partner is
solely-souly-a liberating mirror reflection of your own
consciousness. You must change your inside world for the outside
world to improve. You are always meeting yourself in others. If
you're not happy with the type of person you are attracting,
take a look at the type of person you are.
Myth No.6 - A member of the opposite sex-or energy-will
balance me out.
Reality: Being balanced is an inside job. Fuse the forces of
your feminine and masculine energies to tap your full potential.
Cultivate playfulness, laughter and self-revealing humor. Invite
serendipity and surprise to reveal your other side. Welcome the
unexpected and spontaneous from yourself!
Myth No.7 - I have to take what I get; I can't be
choosy.
Reality: Invoke the basic Feng-shui Law of the Vacuum: You must
be willing to walk away from what you don't want so that you can
be available (empty, receptive, open) for what you do want. The
next perfect partner for you can't come into your life if your
love space is filled with someone you are tolerating, settling
for, or simply using to avoid loneliness.
Myth No.8 - I'm stuck with a lousy Love Script.
Reality: You can re-write your Personal Love Theme with a better
ending. Choose to be innocent (free) of the effect of the past.
Performing an autopsy on a failed relationship can be a very
valuable tool in helping you understand which areas you need to
work on to be more successful in your next relationship. Then be
willing to acquire or develop the skills and qualities required
to help you be more successful in your next connection.
Myth No.9 - I have to give up my personal freedom to be
in a
committed relationship. Love = Ball & Chain.
Reality: Real love and freedom go hand in hand. In a soulmate
connection based on the optimal spiritual evolution of each
party, you can maintain personal freedom while opening to
profound intimacy. Give your commitment and trust to the spirit,
rather than the form, of the relationship. Sometimes lack of
communication is the culprit, if you view a partnership as
bondage. Identify the amount of space you need to be happy in a
relationship and learn how to communicate your desire to your
partner.
Myth No.10 - Because of "Original Sin," I don't deserve
love.
Reality: Original Sin was actually only an Original
Misunderstanding. The so-called Original Sin we committed was
that we thought we were separate from God. Turns out we 're not.
The Good News is that we were wrong. There is no bad news.
Myth No.11 - Relationships take time, energy, effort and
hard
work.
Reality: The only work involved is keeping love away. We spend
countless hours and effort successfully dodging love at every
point of contact in our lives. Every encounter with another
human being is an opportunity to receive love-in the form of
kindness, generosity, a warm handshake or a shared laugh. Right
relationships give you energy. Lousy relationships drain your
energy.
Myth No.12 - If I open my heart, my partner can hurt my
feelings.
Love = Pain.
Reality: Other people cannot hurt our feelings; they can only
trigger feelings that are already hurt within us. The hurt
feelings are already present in our consciousness-in our past,
our personality, our programming. In truth, your partner is
doing you a big favor by bringing up a wound, a sore spot,
within a loving context-for the purpose of healing and releasing
it. It's not possible to avoid hurt feelings in life or a
relationship. But you can use the support of real love to move
the hurt feelings up and out.
Myth No.13 - Another person can "fill the hole" we feel
inside.
Reality: Temporarily at best! Only you can permanently "fulfill
the whole" within yourself. Helpfully, for a while, a partner
can remind you of what it feels like to feel loved and whole.
Then if you surf that wave of connection, you can arrive at the
shore of lasting self-love.
Myth No.14 - It's best to hide your Shadow from the
other person.
Reality: It's best to reveal your weaknesses and faults as soon
as possible. It's not called "in-to-me-see" for nothing. There's
no way to get close to someone and not have your whole self
eventually revealed. Learn to dance with your Dark Side. Learn
to love everything about your unique self-the whole enchilada,
warts and all. The American Plains Indians revealed their worst
deficiencies and flaws on their warrior shields. They knew that
acknowledging the truth of our shortcomings gives us strength.
Full self-acceptance is our greatest asset.
Myth No.15 - If I just loose weight, I'll attract the
lover of
my dreams.
Reality: Weight has nothing to do with exercise, genes, diet or
how much we eat. Maintaining our perfect body weight is a direct
function of the free flow of love in our lives. Weight has
everything to do with our beliefs about exercise, genes, diet or
how much we eat. And our beliefs about exercise, genes, diet or
how much we eat are a direct result of our willingness to have
love flow freely in our lives.
Myth: No.16 - I'm afraid of rejection or abandonment.
Reality: Spread the heartening news: We cannot be rejected by
another person unless we have rejected ourselves first. We leave
love-love never leaves us. This is a good thing. It means we are
in the driver's seat. It means we can open-and keep open-the
door to love anytime we choose. Find a way to move into more
self-acceptance and your days of rejection and abandonment are
history.
Myth No.17 - Relationships are made on Earth.
Reality: Relationship are made in Heaven. Embrace love for what
it truly is: a mystical sacrament and a sensual communion.
Align your description of your Earthly Dream Partner with the
design of your soulmate agreement, and you will find your
Heavenly babe TODAY!
Myth No.18 - I need to marry-or get a formal
commitment-from my
partner to keep them around.
Reality: "Things which go together naturally need not be tied." -Lao Tzu, Chinese sage
Want to know more about the reality of real love that awaits
you? Contact "The Love Doctor'" Keith Varnum at 800.736.7367, or
keith@thedream.com,
for your Free Love Analysis
About
the Author
Drawing from
the wisdom of native and ancient spiritual traditions, Keith Varnum shares his
30 years of practical success as an author, personal coach, acupuncturist,
filmmaker, radio host, restaurateur, vision quest guide and international
seminar leader (The Dream Workshops). Keith helps people get the love, money
and health they want with his FREE “Prosperity Ezine” at
www.TheDream.com.
Regain the Romance and
Sparkle in Your Relationship
by Kali Munro, M.Ed., Psychotherapist
If only relationships could be as
exciting and romantic as when we first met. You know, all that intensity,
enthusiasm, excitement and, of course, sex. I'm sure you've felt it: hating
being apart, even for a short time; being unable to concentrate on anything
else for very long; and waiting to be together again. When you are together,
you hang onto every word, marvel at every part of your lover's body, and feel
so wonderful, you smile all the time.
Does this all have to end? Are relationships doomed to predictable and boring
routines of shopping, preparing meals, doing the dishes, laundry, watching T.V.,
talking about work, taking care of the kids, fighting, and sleeping?
Definitely not. In fact, long term lovers can become even more enchanted with
each other, since their passion grows from a deeper knowledge and fondness for
each other. But time alone does not help a relationship to fourish-it requires
a willingness to take risks, and special, persistent attention.
Many couples love each other deeply, and genuinely enjoy each others' company,
yet feel that the relationship is stale. They long for some of the old
intensity, romance, and spontaneity. Others don't see the need for that
intensity, or even believe that it's possible to feel that again. They assume
that intensity exists only at the beginning of a relationship, and that
"mature love" is more settled and less exciting. While how we feel toward each
other certainly changes and evolves over the years, the truth is that our
relationships reflect what we put into them.
Children can be so carefree and loving because they have lived for just a few
years-a much shorter time in which to accumulate negative experiences and
build up feelings of resentment, anger, and mistrust. Relationships are
similar to this. In the beginning, we don't know each other very well, and
aren't carrying around resentments from past interactions with each other. As
the years go by, these resentments accumulate. We no longer look at our
partner with the same fresh, unjudging eyes.
It can help to look at our partner with a fresh look, let go of past baggage,
and remember all the reasons we love her/him so much. This means stretching
past any resentments, and opening up to feeling and giving love more fully.
So, how can you regain some of that old spark? Start out by thinking about
your partner and all the reasons that you love her/him. Ask yourself:
what s/he means to you;
what it is about her/him that you love;
when was the last time that you told her/him how much you love her/him in a
real feeling way; and
whether you have written her/him a love letter, or left a love note under
her/his pillow or in her/his briefcase recently.
Give yourself permission to creatively express your love. You can make a card,
a little book of love, coupons s/he redeems with you for a massage, dinner, or
whatever you know s/he'd enjoy. You could write a love poem, sing to her/him,
or read an erotic passage out of a book. Don't be shy; your partner will be
touched by the love you put into it.
Consider doing something silly with your lover that you used to do when you
first dated, no matter how silly it seems-in fact, the sillier the better.
Take time to enjoy your partner. Let the dishes and laundry pile up if
necessary.
Need some more ideas? Here's a few:
Surprise your sweetie with tickets to an event you think s/he'd really enjoy.
Hide them where s/he'll find them.
Take her/him out on a date where s/he gets to choose whatever s/he wants to
do, even if it's something you wouldn't ordinarily want to do (remember to be
gracious).
Take turns planning weekly dates, where you take turns deciding what to do. A
date could be a picnic in a park, a drive in the country, a trip to an art
gallery, or a movie.
Turn your home into a fine restaurant for one evening. Surprise your lover
with a menu, music, candles, a delicious meal, and table service (that's you).
If you're frequently too busy to find time together, make spending time
together a priority. Show your partner that s/he is your priority.
Take a day off from all responsibilities, including the telephone, and just do
what you both really want to do. Be completely spontaneous, and if you can't
agree, take turns doing what you both want.
Devote yourself to your partner's wishes for a fixed amount of time. S/he gets
to decide whatever s/he wants you to do (assuming you agree to it). S/he may
want to be held, have you read poetry, receive a massage, be understood about
something, have you clean the kitchen, or be taken out for coffee. Taking
turns with this can be a lot of fun.
Be playful with each other. Feed each other with your fingers, stay in bed all
day, take a walk in the rain, sing old tunes you both know, or have a pillow
fight. It doesn't matter what you do, just that you have fun again.
Find a time to look deeply and lovingly into your lover's eyes; words are not
necessary. Look at her/his face and see her/his beauty and uniqueness. Tell
her/him what you see and feel. Take the risk to feel the depth of your
emotions and to share that with your lover. At night before you fall asleep,
tell her/him something that you love about her/him. Remember, you're the one
who knows what your lover really enjoys. Surprise her/him with something
special-don't wait for a birthday or anniversary.
The idea is, no matter what you do, make it special.
These are just a few suggestions to help you regain some of the sparkle in
your relationship. Don't be afraid to let your imagination go wild, or to
appear silly. Your partner will enjoy the love and thought you've put into it,
and over time you may find your relationship feeling vibrant once more.
© Kali Munro, 1998, 2000.
http://www.KaliMunro.com
About the Author
Kali Munro,
M.Ed., is a psychotherapist in private practice in Toronto, Canada. She has
twenty years experience specializing in a variety of issues including sexual
abuse, relationships, sexuality, eating disorders, and body image. She
provides individual and couple therapy in Toronto, as well as online. She
offers free healing resources at her web site about relationships, abuse,
sexuality, and much more. Check out her inspiring and healing site
www.KaliMunro.com
The 7 Stages of a Romantic
Relationship
by Michelle Casto
There are seven stages in a romantic
relationship: avoidance, meeting, dating, breaking up, establishing
exclusivity, commitment, and keeping the love you find. Each of these stages
vary in length and intensity. At each stage, there are thoughts and feelings
telling you what to do and when to do it. You need to learn to listen to your
intuition in each stage, so that you can make smart decisions.
It is important to note that the breaking up stage can happen at any time
within the other stages; i.e., at any time you or the other person decides to
exit the relationship for whatever reason.
In all seven stages, you always have these choices:
1. Continue moving forward
2. Stagnate
3. Slow down or go backwards
4. Exit
By taking notice of the signals from your head and heart, you will be better
able to interpret what your intuition is telling you. At each stage, consider,
“What am I thinking and feeling?” Are you receiving conflicting messages? Is
your head saying one thing and your heart another? This is often the case,
particularly in romantic relationships. What happens is there is an agreement
error, a contrast between your thoughts and your feelings. This is perfectly
normal. Just remember that you have your very own internal system of checks
and balances. This system was designed to keep you safe. For the moment, it is
temporarily out of order, probably due to stimulation overload. So, before
making any decision at this time, go somewhere quiet’ the answers will come
with reflection and focus.
Once the answer comes, you should act quickly so you do not have time to doubt
your decision. You should never feel trapped or unable to choose what is right
for you. If at any time you do feel this way, then that is a good sign that
something is not right with the relationship. You then need to examine what it
is that is holding you back. If it turns out to be the other person, you are
probably better off leaving the relationship.
A smart way to make important stage decisions is to mutually agree on what to
do next. After all, “if it is meant to be, it will be,” so you may as well
start out making important decisions together. Couples who have good
relationships know that it takes time to build their love. They make a
conscious effort to progress slowly and purposefully through each stage,
enjoying the process, while allowing their love to develop naturally.
Communicating with each other is essential to this process. You should be open
and honest about your concerns and fears, so that you can trust that
everything has been said and understood by both parties. Even if you find that
things aren’t what you would have hoped for, at least you know what is going
on and then you can work on making it better.
Levels of Love
Most of us have experienced love blindness. We either think we love someone or
do not realize until it is too late that we actually did love someone. You do
not have to be blinded by love. You have the power to recognize it, but you
must use smart decision-making skills to avoid making fatal relationship
mistakes. In this section, work on waking up your awareness so that you will
act in “knowing.” The first step is to become familiar with the stages of
relationships and the corresponding levels of love that you or your partner
will most likely experience.
Relationship Avoidance Stage
“I do not desire love”
Goal: to prepare yourself for love
Characterized by non-interest
Meeting Stage
“I am open to finding love”
Goal: to prospect for the possibility of love in others
Characterized by anticipation
Dating Stage
“I hope to find love”
Goal: to pre-qualify for a potential partner
Characterized by uncertainty
(These three stages represent being single and the importance of using the
“Screen-out” process.)
Breaking Up Stage
“I no longer have love with this person”
Goal: to let go of the person/love
Characterized by disappointment/relief
(Breaking up is a transitional stage.)
Exclusivity Stage
“I think this is love”
Goal: to further qualify the person to see if she/he might be a good match
Characterized by excitement
Commitment Stage
“I know this is love”
Goal: to close the deal
Characterized by confidence
Keeping the Love You Find Stage
“I want to keep this love”
Goal: to preserve the love you have found
Characterized by continuous commitment
(These three stages represent being involved and the importance of using the
“Screen-in” process.)
The key is to consciously place yourself in each stage. For example, if you
decide you want to be in the “dating stage” then be fully present and make a
true effort to make yourself available for dating. If, however, you find that
your heart isn’t in it, and that you would rather avoid relationships, then
you need to stop and consciously put yourself back in that stage. This will
help you to stay clear on what you want and enable you to honestly communicate
to others "where you are at.” Each level and stage of the relationship is a
transition and involves psychological and emotional energy. As you progress
through each level, you will no doubt experience excitement and anxiety, hope
and fear, arousal and dis-arousal, certainty and uncertainty, along with a
myriad of other feelings. You will need to work hard at balancing the messages
that you are receiving from both your head and your heart to most accurately
interpret the incoming, overwhelming information—it is very easy to be misled.
***This article is adapted from the book, Get Smart! About Modern Romantic
Relationships: Your Personal Guide to Finding Right and Real Love by Michelle
L. Casto
About the Author
Michelle L. Casto, M.Ed. is a
Whole Life Coach, Speaker, and Author of the Get Smart! LearningBook Series:
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Venus - The Planet of
Love
by Lynda Filer
In Astrology, the planet Venus
stands for our sense of aesthetics, the arts (especially music) and how we
interact in our intimate relationships. Venus is often in the same sign as the
Sun since it can never be more than 45 degrees from our natal sun sign.
When your Venus is in the same sign as your Sun sign there is a consistency in
how you relate in your romantic relationships as well as in your day to day
relationships. When the Sun and Venus are in two different signs, there may be
a marked difference in how you relate to your significant other, showing them
a different side of you than is usually revealed to the outside world. Venus
is associated with the signs of Libra and Taurus.
Venus in Aires
With Venus in Aires you are likely to be an exciting, flirtatious and
fun person to be around. You throw yourself into your relationships and it is
not unusual for people with this placement to fall in love quickly. Marriages
at a young age are also not uncommon.
You are extremely demonstrative in your love and both sexes thrive on the
thrill of the chase. To live is to love to you and when your romantic
landscape is barren you may become rather moody and irritable.
Aires is an impulsive sign and as such you will need to make extra effort to
maintain long term relationships past their first infatuated stage.
Venus in Taurus
With Venus in Taurus you will be attracted to the finer things in life.
You may have a tendency to overindulge your appetite for fine food, wine,
luxurious surroundings and clothing, as well as the more earthy aspects of
your nature.
You are a sensual person and nothing gives you more delight than reveling in
all your senses. You are a consistent and constant lover, although you may
have trouble in dealing with your feelings of jealousy and possessiveness if
you find yourself feeling insecure within relationships. Having said that
though, you are incredibly loyal and dependable with your loved ones, and
often extremely fun to be around.
Venus in Gemini
Venus in Gemini leads to a need for excitement in all aspects of life.
In a romantic relationship you seek a partner who can stimulate you
intellectually as well as physically, and who will not cling too closely to
you.
Your need for independence is strong and you react badly to possessive and
demanding partners. With your wit, charm and keen flirting skills you have no
trouble attracting people to you.
Even in a serious relationship you are not likely to alienate yourself from
your friends to create a special world inhabited by just you and that special
someone. You may appear fickle to others at times, flitting from relationship
to relationship but you are seeking someone who can not only keep up with you
but someone with whom your need for social interaction is not seen as a
threat.
Venus in Cancer
With Venus in Cancer emotional stability is very important to you. Cancer is
an extremely sensitive sign and at times a sometimes moody one.
You need to feel secure in your relationships and need a partner who will
express and show you how much you mean to them. Without this demonstration of
love and commitment you are likely to suffer immensely and to make matters
worse, may even adopt a martyrs stance and pretend that the hurt that you feel
does not matter. It does matter and you need a partner that will reassure you
and treasure you.
Until you find a partner that can and will provide this for you, you will not
feel fulfilled within your relationship. With your kind and sympathetic nature
you should have no trouble finding another with whom to make a cozy and
comfortable home. When you have this security within your love relationship
you will dote on and cherish the object of your affection.
Venus in Leo
Venus in Leo is a theatrical and fun loving sign. Leos love attention and have
an appreciation of the finer things in life. Leo thrives in love relationships
and adores being pampered and the centre of their partners universe. Leos
themselves are generous and charming in return and will lavish unstintingly of
their time, money and of themselves to show their partner just how valued they
are.
Unfortunately when a serious relationship does disintegrate, Leo in Venus will
take this extremely hard and may become rather bitter over it. Although they
attract a lot of attention and enjoy basking in the glow of other peoples
admiration they are a loyal and faithful partner.
Venus in Virgo
Venus in Virgo produces a tendency to over-analyze your emotions. You need to
feel incredibly secure before giving yourself within a relationship and are
likely to come across as cool and shy until you do receive this feeling of
assuredness. You don't like to take risks romantically and want to know that
when you do take the plunge in affairs of the heart, that your partner has the
same commitment to being faithful and constant in your relationship.
You want a partner that you can be truly proud of and one that will never
embarrass you or show you up. Your ideals and expectations are high but you
return these qualities in kind. Self sufficient, you would rather be single
than settle for second best.
Venus in Libra
With Venus in Libra we find a charming and sociable personality that loves to
be in love. Libra has an innate appreciation for beauty and harmony, and often
has no problem attracting partners with their alluring and seductive charm.
A peaceful and harmonious environment is essential to people with this
placement in their chart, as discord in relationships upset them greatly and
could lead to nervous problems. You are an old fashioned romantic who loves to
woo and be wooed and are apt to fall in and out of love rather quickly
especially when younger.
You are a kind, and at times intuitive partner; able to empathize with your
loved ones and willing to do all that you can to help and nurture your partner
when necessary. Although your feelings are at times easily hurt you rarely
hold any rancor as you instinctively realize that this will only bring more
upset to your finely balanced need for harmony.
Venus in Scorpio
Venus in Scorpio brings an extreme intensity to romantic relationships.
You are an all or nothing person. You demand and expect deep and total
commitment from your partner, but return this in kind. You may have problems
with feelings of jealousy and possessiveness. You may also find that a lot of
partners will have problems in dealing with your need to feel in control.
Although you have a tendency to throw yourself wholeheartedly into your
romantic affairs, you are always aware of your need to project yourself as
being in control and of maintaining your dignity. Scorpio is often referred to
as the ruler of sex and you are sure to have a personal magnetism that draws
others to you.
Venus in Sagittarius
Venus in Sagittarius shows itself in a friendly, outgoing and freedom loving
nature. You need your space, and relationships that move forward too quickly
and intensely make you feel nervous and hemmed in.
You can come across as being rather carefree and disinterested in serious
relationships. This is more likely to be a case of your not having yet met
someone with whom you feel you can share your ideals and heart with but allows
you the freedom to come and go as you please. Sagittarius is an honest and
open sign and deep friendship is often the basis of any serious relationship
that does develop.
Venus in Capricorn
Venus in Capricorn brings a solid, dependable and reliable nature when it
comes to romance. You may be afraid of showing your true feelings and are
unlikely to be overly demonstrative in public. This does not mean that you do
not feel deeply or get emotional when the occasion warrants it. It is just in
your nature to keep such things to yourself or to only share them with those
that have earned your respect and trust. Capricorns are often extremely career
orientated and it may be that they find true love somehow connected through
their work. You seek a partner that you can respect and that has the same high
ambitions and ideals as you yourself do.
Venus in Aquarius
With Venus in Aquarius you are likely to be extremely reluctant to tie
yourself down to a committed relationship. You have a need for personal
freedom and the idea of having to take another persons opinions and point of
view into consideration is not something that sits very comfortably with you.
You are highly individualistic and may even have what others consider extreme
or unusual ideas on relationships and what makes them work. Aquarius is a
sociable and friendly sign and in any romance it will be necessary for your
partner to be your friend, first and foremost.
Venus in Pisces
Venus in Pisces shows itself in a personality that is compassionate and
empathetic. You have an affinity and need to help those that are less
fortunate than you. Unfortunately this can at times lead to your being taken
advantage of by less scrupulous people.
Romance is very important to you and you are a hopeless romantic at heart.
When you do form a relationship with someone you are likely to fall for him or
her quickly and to become emotionally dependent and reliant on them. You are
searching for your soul mate and will not feel satisfied within yourself until
you have found your other, the one that you feel you can share yourself
totally with. This placement also gives you a deep appreciation for art music
and other aesthetic values; you may even be quite talented yourself.
About the Author
Lynda Filer lies in sunny
Brisbane, Australia and is the owner and webmaster of Astrological Knowledge (http://www.astrologicalknowledge.com)
and Scullywag Design and Hosting (http://www.scullywag.com)
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